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adhd is having super amplified introspection yet zero self-awareness or decision making skills. i literally never stop overthinking absolutely everything but if you ask me how i am? i dont know. am i enjoying myself? i dont know. my opinion? i dont know. my favorite? i dont know. am i lying? i dont know. do i want this? i dont know. trust my gut feeling? it changes every second. which of these is better? i cant breathe. just pick one? eating glass would hurt less

Are you a one or a zero?

mr robot meme →   4/5 characters  → trenton   “Have you ever considered which part of our scheme motivates you?”

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Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory?  If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary.  You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens.  A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

What Am I?

“I feel [thoughts, feelings]. What am I?”

We can’t answer that. The only person who can…is you. However, we are able to suggest terms you may identify with and encourage you at every turn.

genders / more genders / neurogenders / questioning / sexualities / non-binary sexualities / mlm, wlw, nblnb, etc

Here’s a few mod’s answers on what gender feels like for them. This is a free Virtual Gender Identity Support Group you could join! And this link has some resources: I Think I Might Be Trans: 8 Important Notes On Questioning

We also have tags for different genders (such as /tagged/bigender) if you want more info. Go to your browser like Chrome or Safari and type https://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com/tagged/insertidenity if you can’t search the blog on your mobile app! If you have any further questions, feel free to ask us!

“I didn’t suspect I am trans until I was [x age], so am I still valid?

Yes! Not everyone realizes they’re trans in childhood, and that’s totally okay. Some people realize as children, some people realize during puberty, some people realize in high school, some people realize as adults, and it’s all valid. Even our mods had different ages of discovery (When did you know you were trans?) and that’s totally normal!

Here are a few basic steps to get you started on your journey:

Daydreaming. Think of the future; maybe you have the perfect occupation, or children, or life partner(s), or all three? Or perhaps you’re supreme dictator of Earth? No matter where you are, what do you look like? A man, a woman, someone in between, both, neither, etc.? The image you have in mind could be indicative of who you feel you are, or who you want to be.

Stating your gender. Look in the mirror. State, “I am a boy/girl/etc.,” or, “I am not [assigned gender].” Does it feel right? Does it feel comfortable? This could be indicative of who you feel you are, or who you want to be! 

Being called your chosen name/pronouns. (Please note that you do not have to change your name or pronouns to be transgender.) Think of a close friend who you trust and feel would support and respect you during this time. Say to them, “I am questioning my gender and I would like you to call me (insert name here) and use (insert pronouns here) for me when other people aren’t around.” A good friend will agree. If it feels right for them to call you your chosen name, that could be an indicator. It will feel weird at first to have your friend call you your chosen name, but you’ll get comfortable with it if it is right. The same goes for your gender pronouns!

These three websites will help you practice pronouns!

http://www.practicewithpronouns.com (TW for some disturbing sentences, they’re modeled after the Welcome to Nightvale podcast)

https://minus18.org.au/pronouns-app/

http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/

Experiment. For people or beings who think they may be transmasculine, you could pack with a sock, purchase a chest binder, dress in “masculine” clothing, or talk to masc-identified people or beings! For people or beings who think they may be transfeminine, you can try on makeup, dress in “feminine” clothing, or talk to femme-identified people or beings!

Research. If you don’t know much about being transgender, look here. Look into surgeries and hormones, if this is something that interests you! (Please note that you do not have to get surgery or go on hormones to be transgender.) Check out videos on YouTube, talk to people who are on hormones or have had the surgeries, or check out our trans-masculine resources or our trans-feminine resources

Still confused? Try this.

Good luck!

Lee says:

These are links on getting insurance to cover your medical transition. Many insurances now cover HRT (estrogen and testosterone) and top and bottom surgery.

A lot of insurances require you follow the WPATH standards of care and require you to get letters from mental health professionals saying you need to have surgery because of your dysphoria before the insurance will cover it.

The WPATH-SOC requirements 

Aetna’s Gender Reassignment Surgery requirements (You may have a different insurance company, this is just to demonstrate how it’s often the same as the WPATH requirements) 

Lee’s testosterone and top surgery letter

Sample Referral Letters for Hormone Therapy and Gender-Confirming Surgeries

Getting a therapist and being in therapy

Is dysphoria a diagnosis?

Gender dysphoria diagnosis

Gender identity disorder codes

Trans-related insurance info:

FAQ: Equal access to healthcare

Finding insurance for transgender related healthcare

Colleges and Universities that Cover Transition-Related Medical Expenses Under Student Health Insurance

What Are My Healthcare Rights?

What Does Medicare Cover for Transgender People?

The affordable care fact sheet

Transgender health care

Corporate Equality Index: List of Businesses with Transgender-Inclusive Health Insurance Benefits

O'Donnabhain v. Commissioner and more info on that

Medicare and other health insurance information (Facebook Group)

Appealing a denied claim:

Tips for Appealing a Denied Health Insurance Claim

A Patient’s Guide to Navigating the Insurance Appeals Process

How to Appeal a Health Insurance Denial

How to appeal an insurance company decision

Top surgery:

Top surgery letter template

Step-by-step guide to obtaining insurance coverage for top surgery

Top Surgery Insurance Coverage: What You Need to Know

Top Surgery Insurance Tips From a Super Mom Who Won’t Take ‘No’ For An Answer!

Dr. Mosser’s Guide: How to get your top surgery covered by insurance

Top surgeons who accept Medicare

Top surgeons who take insurance

SINoALICE x Nier Collaboration

I don’t know what’s gotten into you. We’re supposed to be gods together, yet you want to destroy our destiny?