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We live in a world STEEPED in sexual objectification; where we hear about so-called "sex positivity" constantly; a world where BDSM and other amazingly harmful and revolting kinks are celebrated and those who are against them are shamed; where it's considered normal to walk around naked at public events, and to simulate sex on stage in musical performances that are viewed all over the globe...
And ONE blogger says, "I think these things are harmful," and people ACTUALLY have the audacity to show up and talk about how they're "tired of the sex-negativity."
It's just...astonishing, really. These people act like a fish suddenly taken out of water if they're exposed to a sex-negative or even anti-promiscuity/anti-kink post. "Put me back in my pool of shallow sexual objectification! THIS IS VIOLENCE!" 😹
Pregnancy is not a punishment for having sex. Yes, even unprotected sex.
Parenthood isn’t a punishment for having sex, either. Parenthood is a lifelong responsibility that should knowingly be opted into; it isn’t a penalty for having sex and getting pregnant one (1) time.
Having sex is not an immoral act. Women having sex is not an immoral act. It does not need to be punished.
I sometimes feel betrayed, concerned, in disbelief, and even disgusted with women's willful participation in patriarchy, but I am working on that. A day will come when I no longer care about any of it. From that moment on, it won't even register to me anymore. I will have accepted I was never truly owed sisterhood, nor is there a point in building it when you realise that the majority of women are deviants themselves, trapped in heated heterosexual foreplay.
Sisterhood comes across as a euphemism for labour from childfree women who are either in homosexual relationships or are celibate while the majority of women offer nothing to help those women's broken backs. They're more likely to drop a drawer of knives on their backs, really. It's not something I want to be a part of. Even among women, sisterhood is to sacrifice yourself for women who cater to males or have failed catering to males but learned nothing from it.
One day when I happen to see their struggle amongst themselves in endless cycles of empty words, cute slogans, and briefly trending hashtags while they continue loving men, regardless of how many times they prove unsalvageable, I'll not feel emotional about it at all anymore. And I will be a happier woman for it.
So tired of seeing feminists claim maIe identified women just need to "learn". You put any woman in a position where they have to face maIeness in its rawest form without other women to take the heat away from them and they'll spit out takes (or actions even) like what's in radical feminist texts. Not in a "omg I've just found this out" way but more like something they've held in them all along. As women harm other women they're fully aware of their actions as they do it. These women aren't unaware they just dont care (until it hits home for them).
Basing "feminism" and "praxis" on being a "girl's girl" or emphasizing "sorority" instead of critical analysis of female opression, which includes the criticism of certain women (madames in brothels, abusive mothers, female bullies, female sexual predators), was counterproductive.
It's a staple of this "feminism" to think of women's opression in feelings terms. It's bad because it makes you sad, or dysphoric, or desperate, or angry and therefore the solution is feelings based: you need to feel better, happier aka empowered. Which makes the fight for representation and diversity in media a crucial issue, for example.
Even issues in which legal protections should be emphazised, the usian utilitarianism twists them into feeling based "i dont feel safe around men in bathrooms".
The usamerican utilitarian basis (which priorizes happiness maximization) corrupts every ideology or political movement that steps a foot in the USA.
"Choice feminism" aka "liberal feminism" which is simply american misogyny spreads like fire thanks to its compatibility with fast and catchy slogans. Usian propaganda aka advertising and utilitarianism are totally compatible therefore usian misogyny is easily shared in social media, platforms made for marketing purposes.
A lack of sexual discipline is present in both women and men. Women mistakenly believe that their sexuality is more virtuous because men are more openly degenerate. Both sexes are after social validation and physical release in their pursuit of bodies. “Making love” isn’t any less selfish and degrading. This world is a perverts playground, both men and women have made it that way. Watch the gender divide disappear when a woman speaks of sexually abstaining indefinitely. Men and women, regardless of orientation will unite to shame her.
nah nevermind i take everything back.
procreation is the ultimate evil, worse than rape and murder combined (that's not even touching all women's other evils), and so women are indeed the ultimate evil. there is no greater violation of bodily integrity or consent. women view the consent of their child to be born the same way men view women's right to, well, anything: opt-out by varying degreed of violence up to suicide. "that's what god/nature intended, for a man to have a woman, and for a woman to have a child." no crime committed against them is unjust. i will never speak ill of a man again. after all, their maleness was forced upon them against their will by their mother's act of procreation. men do not choose to be born male any more than i or any other woman chose to be born female, or born at all.
feminism is a joke. if you, you poor son of a bitch, had the great misfortune to have you mother not kill herself before giving birth to you, and other women have only ever seen you as another women in a rhetorical bid to coerce you but have otherwise known as stark as blood of white cotton that you are not them are what you are is repulsive and exists only to be mocked in-between being shunned, this is the guide you need to go by: hwstm. yes, like wwjd but not psychotic. "how would she treat me?" whenever you hear anything about a woman, ask yourself that question. a woman was burned alive on a train? how would she have treated me if we met before then? and, better yet, how do the masses of women around me respond to her murder: "people are so awful!" "not people! men!" "he was an illegal with a criminal history" "racist!!! all men are equally dangerous!!! 😠" so the answer is most women would treat me like shit, and if a man killed me, they'd raise a cunting farm about it in public to raise their goodie social points while laughing about me in private and break their necks to enable the same shit that got me killed.
yeah. nah. women are all whores and every shred of compassion on wsdted on them will eat me still when i'm rotting in my grave.
it's just wild..all this down dirty advice for navigating relationships with men and for "normal" women, it all tracks...but for women like me, we just have to stop and remark how much of it applies to you, and you will never know.
Women are just as responsible for their roles in upholding the patriarchy as men are. They should not be given a pass by talking about how they were just "brainwashed" or conditioned into their beliefs.
Men and women have both been handed a belief system about EVERYTHING, including our roles in society and the ways we ought to treat each other, and once you're an adult you're 100% responsible for unpacking and unlearning all harmful programming and making good decisions. If you're not responsible, you're not a grown-up. To hold men accountable for this and to give women a pass is to say that men are sovereign, intelligent beings with free will, capable of reason and making a choice between good and evil, and women are not. It reduces women to status of robots with no free will, who are slaves to their programming, or to the status of mental children. It puts women on a level BENEATH men. We hold adults responsible for their actions. It's children who we point to and say, "They don't know any better, they're just doing what they've been told. Give them a break."
You know all these harmful patriarchal attitudes we waffle on about all day, like the idea that women should wear makeup and shave or that females are inferior to males? When you see a post with a thousand comments by women telling a girl she's ugly and needs to begin "looksmaxxing," you're seeing that self-hatred abusively being instilled into another young woman in real time...by women. It's happening right in front of you. It OFTEN comes from other women; THIS is how it's perpetuated!
Or when you hear about boy moms who abuse their daughters while favoring their sons, setting that girl up with a sense of low-self worth that she'll be looking to balance her whole life (probably with manipulative men or self-harming behaviors), you're seeing the message that "𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘦" inflicted on one of your sisters - BY A WOMAN! Quite aggressively too, I might add!
If you saw a person abusing a child or beating a dog with a stick, you wouldn't tell yourself, "Well, they've probably just been taught to do that" or "Well, this OTHER group hurts kids and beats dogs far more often so, I guess I'll let this one slide," would you?
Hold abusers and agents of the patriarchy accountable wherever and whenever you see them. Shut it down. If you're against all this shit, act on it when you see it. No matter what individual you're standing against in any given moment, when you push back against these messages you're standing FOR women and against the patriarchy.
What if…what if you rejected female socialization with the same fervor you reject levelheaded women spoonfeeding you Self Preservation for Dummies, Getting Out of the Doormat Mindset 101, and Introduction to Growing a Self Esteem?
The world is filled with different interests promoting their agendas and narratives, and what someone is receptive to says a lot about that person. Women who were hardly susceptible to the so-called “patriarchal brainwashing” exist and they aren’t this way only because they had the pRiviLEge of somehow discovering free pdfs of feminist texts on the World Wide Web. Attributing everything to socialization erases these women’s experiences and diminishes the individual’s agency!