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Can someone recommend books which have a trauma informed/schema theory perspective/non-ableist non-sanist or even an anti-psychiatry take on personality disorders?

SERIOUS TALK . CENSORSHIP

the amount of censorship and ignorance regarding anything that isn't remotely 'normal' or seems 'realistic' to the average eye is absolutely disgusting and genuinely ableist. see someone who's visibly disabled? oh, no, you can never go up to them! come on! avoid them! they're too different from you. you would never be able to understand them. they would never be able to understand you. have a friend who has a stigmatized mental health condition? oh! they must be faking! nobody *actually* has that! it's too rare! we should stop being friends with them! they must be a monster! have someone tell you that you have an invisible disability? that doesn't exist! if i cant see it, then you don't have it! i know your body better than you do! prove you have your disability, then! and the funny thing is, these types of things are completely censored- viewed as 'wrong' or 'not something to be talked about'. when really, it's just an excuse to not talk about, spread awareness, or allow those who are troubled by these conditions to speak up. TALK ABOUT YOUR ILLNESS. TALK ABOUT YOUR DISABILITY. TALK ABOUT YOUR 'ABNORMALCY'. show the world that **you aren't weird or crazy or monstrous for not fitting the norm.**

HPD Adjacent!

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HPD adjacent flag! This is left vague so anyone who has, is questioning, or displays traits of the disorder may use it! This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing neurodivergencies and is NOT for transid supporters.

[ID: A flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dusty purple, grape purple, dark grape purple, dark purple brown, dark magenta, bright pink, watermelon pink, bright orange, and bright yellow. End ID.]

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

Flag by me, using sampled colors. Requested by @shatterine. Tagging @radiomogai.

HPD + BPD adjacent flag! This is left vague so anyone who has, is questioning, or displays traits of the disorder(s) may use it! These were made with people who have trouble pinpointing neurodivergencies and are NOT for transid supporters.

[ID: A flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are purple black, plum purple, dark magenta, berry pink, bright orange, sunny yellow, off white, cloudy blue, light purple blue, and dark stormy blue. End ID.]

Flag by me using sampled colors. Requested by @gillipopmoji.

histrionic soul trait

a term under the "x soul trait" umbrella for when being histrionic is your soul trait. the first is for humans, the second for monsters

HPD Flags

for lgbts who have histrionic personality disorder ! in order: lesbian, gay, bi, trans, pansexual, nonbinary, asexual, aromantic, genderfluid

DO NOT INTERACT if you are bigoted, ace/aro/pan exclusionist, support mspec lesbians/gays, or support endogenic/non-traumagenic systems.

messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD

you are loved, valued, and important.

the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

i'm glad you're here today.

your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.

It's very common for people to push those with demonised personality disorders to the end of their tether via manipulation, bullying, abuse, etc. and then get upset with them when they inevitably snap.

It happens a lot within the neurodivergent community, too! People spread lies about us, do things that purposely upset/trigger us and then when we start to get upset/stand up for ourselves/etc. it's "sEE??? we were right about them all along!!!!"

Quick reminder: regardless of what condition you have, you are allowed to have your own experiences.

You don't have to be like everyone stereotypes people with your condition to be and MUCH LESS be the exact opposite of said stereotypes.

Never feel like you're giving your community a "bad image" just by experiencing things.

It will never be your fault if some ableist asshole uses you to "prove" they were right about your condition.

Woosh , , and new flags [ three !? ] arrive

Cluster A, B, and C flags !!

[ no ID, help appreciated !! - A, B, and C in order ]

I tried thinking of colours that were considered odd, paranoia-related, or eccentric, and that's how we came up with the first flag !! We wanted one slightly bright colour to really represent the word "eccentric" in the definition, and thought that fit best.

For the second flag, we tried thinking of colours more associated with love, hate, egocentrism, nervousness, and sadness !! The burgundy, we mostly thought of NPD, ASPD, and BPD for. The yellow, Histrionic. I feel like the blue comes from all of the PDs in this category , , considering lack of attention, insults, or slight things we deem wrong tends to make us sad or angry , , or things similar.

For the third flag, we thought of anxiety, obsession, anger, loneliness, and irrationality. I came up with yellow, green, and blue. The colours aren't for particular disorders in the group, but if I had to describe it, I'd say the blue fits AVPD, the yellow fits DPD, and the green fits OCD.

The white for all of them represents the ability to grow, the hope we could have, the love that is very possible no matter the PD.

I hope the flags aren't too complex '^^ , ,

To simplify them, the very bottom and top band could be removed, along with the white if wanted.

tagging for , , yeah @mogai-sunflowers - @kirby-in-wonderland - @hypnosiacon - @cupidcoining (it won't let me tag for some reason 😭😭.) I tried tagging those who might be interested or I know have PDs , , reblogging to tag others who you'd think would like it is appreciated !!

If you’re someone without a personality disorder trying to defend people with personality disorders, you get told that you’ve been manipulated and brainwashed and can’t be trusted.

If you’re someone with a personality disorder trying to defend yourself, you get told that you’re manipulative and dangerous and can’t be trusted.

There really is no way for us to win.

Some of y'all be like "Oh yeah I support Cluster B" until they:

Have debilitating cognitive problems

Are depressed

Have emotions that aren't aesthetically pleasing

Don't know healthy coping mechanisms

Have a different view of social norms

Struggle with relationships

Do actions that for you are "obviously purposefully evil"

Explain the thought process behind their actions, not excuse them

Have trauma that just by existing doesn't invalidate yours but somehow that thought scares you

It's almost like you don't support Cluster B, hm.

We love people with low and no empathy here!

hey i just wanted to give a shout out to people with personality disorders real quick. your disorder doesn't make you evil, it doesnt make you an abuser, and it doesnt make you unlovable. you're just as deserving of respect, care, and support as people without personality disorders. stay safe, i love you and i hope you have a happy holiday season. we're in this together <3

Reblog/interact if your blog is a safe space for all people struggling with their Cluster A, B, and C personality disorder regardless of whether they are high or low-functioning in their disorder.

sonic sez

It's very common for people to push those with demonised personality disorders to the end of their tether via manipulation, bullying, abuse, etc. and then get upset with them when they inevitably snap.

It happens a lot within the neurodivergent community, too! People spread lies about us, do things that purposely upset/trigger us and then when we start to get upset/stand up for ourselves/etc. it's "sEE??? we were right about them all along!!!!"

Not a day passes by without me being mad as shit that ableism against demonized mental illnesses is normalised.

We are not criminals. We are not dangerous. We do not owe neurotypicals a complete explanation on why we developed our disorders and why we aren't serial killers that kidnap people.

Fuck hollywood, fuck ableist criminology and fuck saneism.