Inferiority - Blog Posts

For Victims of Abuse Who Feel Betrayed.

There is no rule that says that anyone has to like or accept cruel people, and personally, I would not even trust those who do so.

There is also no rule that says that anyone has to forgive them, unless some religious or healing aspect comes into it, where people try to win the power struggle in becoming superior to their abuser. That can be helpful, but it is not something that I would personally advocate.

Let’s have some eye opening discussion.

If the need to be liked and accepted in someone is that strong that people who create incessant cruetly are welcome and acceptable, then the person may well be an Apath (sometimes termed as “flying monkey”), a dangerous being who stands by on the fence as abuse continues, and in their own quietly masked way, support them in their endeavours in the hope of never becoming the target to the persons cruelty themselves. 

Abusers wont let apath’s off for it when they need another target, and will happily discard them in the same way as anyone else when they can no longer be used.

There is a high trend for acceptance of cruelty being created by people who think that they are doing the right thing, being all encompassing loving all human beings.

Psychologically that can help them cope if they have been victims of abuse themselves in life, with a situation which I know very well of experience wise, called Stockholm Syndrome being the culprit.

If you have been a victim of abuse and supporters of abusers are hurting you inside, that is completely valid and correct way to feel. I would hug you if I could, and say that you are in a fantastic state of mind, whilst those who are continuing the trail of cruelty are not.

Stay blessed :-)

© Saturday 19th Feb 2022

Aberforth

Aberforth, oh Aberforth how I wish we knew of you aBEFORth...yeah

Aberforth represents someone we all know. For every person who wants to be in the spotlight, there is someone (much more actually) that aren’t and either don’t mind or are glad. While referenced as “the simple life”, Aberforth choices and life is one that is more complicated and I hope people who read Harry Potter tried to understand and think about how terrible his life was on some level and who is truly was as a person. While we don’t learn much about him, the few things we did spoke a lot about the character of those who decide to shine away from the spotlight. While not obvious, Aberforth has a lot more in common with Harry Potter than Dumbledore ever did or would and how these characteristics can be in all of those who choose to act on them. 

1. Both Harry and Aberforth grew up being seen as second best, as many do. To the girl in your class who got the perfect SAT score or the guy in your computer science class who just started his own startup company and doesn’t have to go to college; their sibling's lives can be awful if not handled properly. Being second best is something that creates a dark (and usually not addressed) cloud that encompasses your entire life. Not everyone is good at everything and no skill or talent should directly outrank another; heck, look at Petunia (another reason why she really should’ve treated Harry better knowing how it felt to be him), she never got over Lily being a wizard and her parent's treatment of her afterwards. So again parents, grandparents and humans in general: don’t pretend that you treat your children the same if you don’t and definitely don’t act as if it’s something to just accept and get over. Yes, everyone is not created equally, there is always out there that is better at something than we are, but it’s being treated respectfully, as a person that makes ALL the difference. 

2. Standing up for what’s right, especially against those that are supposed to be your allies.

But Aberforth went against his brother and his friend, two people who were considered out of his league but at the time were morally repugnant. Regardless of what others thought they knew Aberforth held his ground, defending his sister and his mother against his superstar brother and friend and that takes courage, bravery, self-confidence, and gumption. 

For the most part, Harry had the support of his friends and chosen family, and while the times that others should have listened to him (Draco year Six), you can also see why they always didn’t. Harry and his friends did continue, no matter the odds of success, to always try to help others and protect those who couldn’t protect themselves. 

3. Short and sweet: Neither did anything they did, for glory (maybe Harry a bit when he was younger thought it’d be cool....but it wasn’t why he KEPT ON TAKING ON Voldemort)