Survivor - Blog Posts
now i wanna just sort of finally find someone to talk to- to connect to. It’s just weird being on my own so frequently, aching to be loved and understood, but being terrified of actually connecting to someone. As i told the color green, if you allow yourself to be loved then you also open yourself up to vulnerability. And survivors of ab*** just don’t have that luxury.
Reparenting Affirmations for Child Abuse Survivors
I am so glad you were born.
You are a good person.
I love who you are and am doing my best to always be on your side.
You can come to me whenever you’re feeling hurt or bad.
You do not have to be perfect to get my love and protection.
All of your feelings are okay with me.
I am always glad to see you.
It is okay for you to be angry and I won’t let you hurt yourself or others when you are.
You can make mistakes. They are your teachers.
You can know what you need and ask for help.
You can have your own preferences and tastes.
You are a delight to my eyes.
You can choose your own values.
You can pick your own friends, and you don’t have to like everyone.
You can sometimes feel confused and ambivalent, and not know all the answers.
I am very proud of you.
Rain world art month day 31 : unfortunate development
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Also happy trans visibility day :)))
ALSO SURVIVOR DESIGN BY @/azrielfiend !!
I always knew that I would find you...
A school project, but one I’m quite proud of
Favorite scrunglo of the cast (both the DLC and base)?
oh, i forgot i technically still have requests open
these are my favorite base game and dlc slugcats, Survivor and Rivulet. i think it mostly boils down to me enjoying playing as normal littol critters. dont get me wrong, i do still like the other slugcats and enjoy playing as them, but im more drawn to these guys for some reason. i also really like their story, especially rivulet's
... i forgot the tail fins that i usually give rivulet. oops
Rain World Ostober 3 - Urban Jungle
little tiny disclaimer, there might be delays in posts as i have afterschool study hall like all week and some days next week. also i just generally dont know whenever i'll be able to get onto tumblr to post lol so theres that
anywho, theres not much to say. i was going to ramble abt outskirts a bit but im not quite in a rambling mood rn, maybe later. i'll just say thou that i love it lol. as always, i winged it with the background
Rain World Ostober 2 - Pictures of the Past
whoopsie daisy
The final installment of my " Boudoir Galactica " fan art portrait series. The concept of this one inspired the entire series. In the scene with Laura (sans wig) and Adama in bed, showed that a disease like cancer does not diminish one's beauty, that being "seasoned" can enhance one's beauty, and I wanted to portray that. This piece features President Laura Roslin portrayed by Mary McDonnell.
Good Omens - Survivor
"We're doomed."
"Well, then... welcome to the end times."
Just a little something to celebrate the announcement of season two.
To my tiny beanie baby self, who smiles at cats and loses a tooth by biting cotton candy. You don’t understand why things have happened the way they do, and neither do I, but maybe the words of this trusted adult will help ❣️
Mr. Gaiman, I know you mostly get asks about Good Omens these days, but I am a long-time fan. Of your work Coraline. I am a survivor of severe parental neglect and abuse, and I must have read the book hundreds of times in my childhood and I found great comfort in the movie, despite my now complicated feelings about Time Burton as a person. I guess I just wanted to thank you for creating a piece of art that made me feel less alone in my very isolated adolescence.
Do you have any advice for healing after such a traumatic start to life?
I'm glad Coraline has helped. (Tim Burton didn't have anything at all to do with the Coraline movie though.)
When I was young I believed that the way you healed was just to move on. Now I'm 63 and you realize that stuff never heals on its own. It's still there, waiting to jump out at you. But there are things that help: other people help, especially other people it's safe to talk to. Building a life can help. And making art out of trauma. That's good too.
I wished Coraline had been around when I was a child, and that was why I wrote it as an adult.
The Moonlight, the stars, the willow outside the window.. stuffed lamb on the floor
Deep inside this memory filled dream
Locked behind this door
Holding my secrets
My cries, my screams
Childhood dreams
Memories of ruby drenched sheets
The only ones
Who have seen the unseen
S. S.
His movement, his story, his heartbreak, everything. This was just so beautifully done and moving. You cannot hate him or this speech
Patching Up
Aftermath of Determined Protector! they all snuggle up in the den together so cutely <3
Determined Protector
Shaded Citadel has been FULL of Scavengers, we've stolen so many lanterns from them, and Neon has fought off several of them. Frills was murdered by them, too ): RIP Frills The lizard pictured is Neon! Please DO NOT use or repost my artwork anywhere without my express written permission. My work is prohibited to be used in any affiliation with NFTs, the blockchain, or AI generators and art.
Trying to figure out my art style for all of them
Sexual Assault Survivors’ Bill of Rights Became Federal Law 10/7/2016 https://www.congress.gov/bill/114th-congress/house-bill/5578/text 1. The rights of a survivor should never be contingent on reporting or pursuing legal action. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with trauma and these fundamental rights must be protected for every survivor. 2. Every survivor has a right to a sexual assault counselor; waiving the right to a counselor in one instance does not negate this right. 3. Fair and efficient rape kit procedures are a must. It is unacceptable that a kit might be misplaced or destroyed; to prevent this and delays, a tracking system must be developed. 4. There must be standard procedures for ensuring that survivors are informed of their rights. 5. In assessing the effectiveness of this policy and future policies, diverse voices and communities must be included in the conversation. The bill establishes a task force that includes representatives from communities of color, immigrant communities, organizations that conduct outreach/education/advocacy for BGLQT individuals, survivor advocates, law enforcement, and a SANE nurse. Thank you Amanda Nguyen, for spearheading this, and all who helped.
Hi! I'm a survivor of childhood sex trafficking from ages7 -16. I have chronic pain and a compromised immune system, I am in the streets fighting homelessness, humiliation. I am heartbroken going through very dark times, making daily life a struggle. Help me secure a safe and stable life. Now I'm looking for my own RV I try to raise $3800 but anything is appreciated🙏
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Go support!
Men will really say ACAB and then blame women for not going to the police when they’re assaulted.
How to Survive Fourth of July With Hypervigilance:
Independence Day can be rough for Americans living with hypervigilance related issues. The loud noises can make your heart race and your head spin. It may even feel hard to breathe. You’re gonna have to be strong. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to help.
Put in your earbuds. Listening to music will not only drown out the sound, it may also help you calm down. Music has been shown to help reduce anxiety and stress levels by up to 65 percent.
Use noise reduction headphones. If you want, you may even be able to see the fireworks! Just make sure you slip on a pair of noise reduction headphones. They can reduce the noise by more than 70 percent!
Spend the day with someone you love. Just being around someone we love can help steady our heart rates and calm our breathing. While it may still be rough, spending the time with a loved one is likely to make it a little less torturous.
Take a shower. It’s gonna be a long shower, but the noise of the water will drown out the fireworks.
Cuddle with a furry friend. Pets can be hugely therapeutic to people struggling with any sort of mental health issue, and even more so for those struggling with anxiety and ptsd. (Note: this may not work if your pet is just as panicked about fireworks as you are.)
But most importantly, especially for anyone struggling with any past trauma, remind yourself that you are safe. Do something that requires you to interact with your environment to help yourself stay in the here and now. It can be hard to stay in the present when faced with certain triggers, especially if you are alone.
You are strong and you will make it through this. Everything will be okay. I promise.
A couple of other things from my experience:
Unless you know for a fact that they are comfortable with it, always ask before touching them in any way. I’ve had a couple friends trigger panic attacks that way.
If you’re in a relationship try to have some sort of code for when it is and isn’t okay to be super intimate. My ex and I had a color code for what level of intimacy I was comfortable with and he would always ask what color I was.
I often flinch and put my hands up at any sudden hand movement. Don’t get offended if someone does that. It’s just an instinctive response.
Don’t slam doors, stomp around, or make unnecessary excessive noise when possible. It can often cause anxiety attacks.
Never, and I mean NEVER, refer to someone’s anxiety/panic attacks or PTSD episodes as a “tantrum” or “fit” EVER
If I say, “can you not do that? It reminds me of my abuser.” It isn’t me comparing you to them. It’s simply me trying to let you know that whatever you’re doing/saying triggers traumatic memories.
You are not alone and it is NEVER your fault if you are a victim of abuse.
THINGS TO BE AWARE OF WHEN IT COMES TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED: 💬
we all experience it differently, but these are the most common ones to me.
Since I grew up in a abusive household,
• I could tell the mood to the person who abused me by their steps, and I remember not being able to breathe when the person was mad because the footsteps were fast and heavy. I still get scared when people walk like that.
• I get scared when a person comes home without saying anything to me because it was what the person who used to abuse me did when they were angry at me.
• I still tip toe around the house at night on my way to the bathroom, scared that the smallest sound I make will get me in trouble.
• I jump at the slightest movement because I’m afraid it’s aimed at me after all the years of being threatened and hit.
• I never refuse to help with anything even if I can’t, because I remember what happened when I refused or didn’t answer right away.
• I am very observant because it’s how I got away from being abused for days, I see one thing outta place at home and I know that day will not be a great one. Is everything at place? a day without abuse.
• If a person gets a bit angry, starts rising their voice or looks at me with a sharp look, I feel like running away and never coming back because it’s how the person who abused me would intimidate me.
please, take these things into consideration and be aware of them, it would mean a lot to me and others who also went through the same things. don’t make fun of anyone who acts like this, you have no idea what they have gone through.
if you have other things to add, please do. it’s important to be aware of the things that might trigger people who have been or are still being physically abused. and if you know someone who’s being abused, please help them. it could do so much good for them.
and if anyone ever needs to speak with anyone, just know that you can message me and I’ll do my best to help as much as possible. I’m also here if you need a friend as well :)
As if life just kept going, the world spinning, people laughed, talking, breathing –
... and you're standing in the middle of it, but motionless. Mute. Decoupled.
As if you were just a spectator of your own existence.
