Demisexuality - Blog Posts
l am Demisexual and Demiromantic but l hope it still proves your point :)
I need to prove a point to my mom. Reblog if you can realize you’re asexual/aromantic in your teens.
GE Saeran is demi aroace.
SE Saeran is caedromantic and ace.
I hate people who try and invalidate other people's sexuality because it's not a majority. (Ex. Asexuality, Demisexuality, etc.)
I've seen a lot of people say that it doesn't exist or it's ruining the LGBTQ+ community, which is absolutely bull.
You know who's really ruining the community MAPs. MAPs are practically pedophiles who claim they're in the LGBTQ+ community and say that pedophilia is a full on sexuality. They are disgusting and revolting human beings who shouldn't even be allowed to be called human at this point.
Every one under the Asexual umbrella isn't hurting anyone. They are normal people who just don't like sex unless they literally fall in love or they just don't do it. In what context and way are they making you, Karen and Chad, invalidate them?
happy international asexuality day! <3
demisexual pride kitty! based on a norwegian forest cat, black smoke coat.
definition below for those who don't know:
Demisexual is a sexual orientation most often defined as only experiencing sexual attraction when an emotional connection or bond has formed with someone.
i told my boyfriend i was demisexual so i had to expalin to him that demisexual is the kind of people who feel sexual attraction to someone with an emotional bond, and he said "yeah just like everyone else"... how i am supposed to react to that? i told him that no, because lot of people is alright with one night stands, but he was insisting everyone was like this..
This is a hard one that I’ve struggled with too, because as demisexuals we know that our experience is fundamentally different, but often times harder to pin down than saying we’re strictly asexual. Here’s how I explained it to my mom. I’m not sure how useful this is, especially since it’s about how *I* experience demisexuality, which might be different than how you or others do, but maybe it’ll help.So imagine that sex is coffee right? People love coffee. Coffee is everywhere. There’s a Starbucks on every corner, coffee drinkers in every TV show and movie, and billboards and ad spots about coffee all the time. People who like coffee might be peculiar about how they want their coffee— maybe they like it with sugar or soy milk, or only in the mornings before 10, or only when they’re studying, only from Starbucks or only from their local coffee house, etc. Or they might not care— they might like coffee no matter when or how it’s made. They’ll buy it from anyone and take it in whatever form because they really like coffee. But they all agree that in general they like coffee.
And then there are people who don’t like coffee at all. They can’t stand it. They don’t want coffee at any point of the day, no matter how it’s made or who makes it. Nothing you can do makes coffee in any way appealing to them. Coffee lovers are generally baffled by this, and some might insist that people who don’t like coffee just haven’t had the right cup, but the fact is that people who don’t like coffee simply just don’t like coffee.
And then there are people like us: we don’t generally like coffee, and we wouldn’t choose to have coffee on our own. Like the people who don’t like coffee, we can go years without a cup of coffee and it doesn’t bother us at all.
But we have a friend who loves coffee, and we love that friend. And the longer we’re friends, the more we want to have coffee with them. Not because coffee has suddenly become our favorite drink, but because we love our coffee-drinking friend and THEY make us want coffee. So we go out for coffee with them, and we enjoy having coffee because we’re having coffee with them. If we weren’t with them, we wouldn’t want coffee.
"But everybody feels that way" isn’t true. Coffee lovers still want coffee even when their conditions for having coffee aren’t met. Just because they’re not drinking coffee right now, or because they might have preferences for when & how they drink coffee, doesn’t mean they stop liking coffee. But for people like us, if we’re not having coffee with that specific person, then we don’t care about coffee. It holds absolutely no appeal or value. We have to have that connection before we ever want coffee. Coffee lovers might want that connection when they have coffee too, but they also generally want coffee as a thing in itself.
That’s the difference between being demisexual and being an allosexual who likes to have emotional connections with their partners. An allosexual person still likes and wants sex as a thing itself, even if the conditions for having sex aren’t being met. They think about and desire sex outside of the conditions they set for engaging in the actual act. A demisexual person doesn’t care about sex as a thing in itself, because sex is inherently tied to emotional bonding for them. We don’t think about sex as an act involving us unless it’s under those conditions.
That may or may not be the worst analogy ever, I honestly don’t know, sorry. It seemed to work for my mom, but that might be because she really likes coffee *shrugs*
If anyone following this blog has any resources on how to respond to that type of response they’d like to direct the anon to, please let me know so I can post them!
Hope that helps!
Out of curiosity, could you take a moment to reblog this if you believe that demisexuality exists? I’m demisexual, and I feel like demisexuality goes really under the radar, even within the asexual community umbrella. A lot of people don’t believe that it exists, and even within the ace community, demisexuality is still questioned as being legitimate, although we share the same flag. So reblog this is if you believe it exists.
Drawing No. 2: Koo Chan Sung (Hotel Del Luna) - Demisexual
Small Rant About my Stupidity
I'm an idiot and I can't believe it took me this long to come to such a FUCKING OBVIOUS CONCLUSION but I'm demisexual. I am SO ANGRY at myself. This would have saved me so much FUCKING TROUBLE. ARGH. I have lied. To. So. Many. People. About. Having crushes on celebrities. Finding people in my class attractive. Just. So. I. Could. Feel. Normal. I thought something was wrong with me? I was never sure if I was gay or not because I have only ever been attracted to one person. I have had conversations with my bi friend about female celebrities and who's the hottest and I just picked women that I admired because NONE OF THEM WERE ATTRACTIVE. She was like "Marzia right?" And I was like "HAHA YEAH HER TOO." And I can't tell my friends because then I would have to explain why I know I'm demi and not ace which involves telling everyone that I have a crush on my best friend. And no one wants that. So I swear to GOD past me. Why are you such an IDIOT? Now I'm stuck in a hole and I know my friends will completely accept me when I do tell them but I can't just yet because then I would have to explain crap-tonnes of shit that I've said so I could pretend to be sexually attracted to fucking Maya Hawke or Zendaya but I'm really not I just love them as people so yeah now I'm just ready to die.