Qpp - Blog Posts
actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.
Someone already said this but this absolutely applies to Bragoon and Saro as well
Mariel is aroace. Dandin is aroace. They are queerplatonic partners. Next question.
I feel like Redwall Abbey would be full of queer platonic partners. They’re clearly the type of folk who understand that there are many, many different forms of love just as valuable as romantic. The concept of this is just so beautiful to me idk
Bruh I'm so platonically in love and simping so hard for my best friend how do I handle this
I need to vent.
My brother has feelings for my partner. And my partner has feelings for my brother. I feel sick at my stomach. I don't feel angry towards either of them, but I just feel so upset. It's not even like up for debate whether or not they like each other. They do. I know they do. It's so fucking obvious. I don't even know what to do. I feel like I can't even move forward with my partner knowing they like my brother but I don't wanna hurt them. Hell, they dated for like four hours. My partner asked me to date someone they had gotten a queer platonic crush on, and I said of course, I wanted them to be happy. Later I figured out that it was my brother who they failed to mention was the person they liked. So I talked to my brother about it and they broke up. And when I talked to my partner about it they just kept apologizing and I felt like a terrible person so I just said it was okay and gave in. It's not okay, I'm still upset, I still feel disgusting. I know they still have feelings for each other because they don't just fucking go away. I don't even know what to do because I feel like if I do anything I'm making a scene. I don't wanna do this anymore. I wish this hadn't happened, but it did. It's not my fault. It's not theirs. But somehow I still feel like I want to blame someone.
(Added context. My partner is aroace, I'm A-spec. We're in a qpr, and our qpr could look to the unknowing eye like an 'average' relationship. Also my brother is not brother by blood, but he's my brother in every other aspect.)
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heh. wifepost. not in a yume way @rottendecisions (NOT SHIP ART WE ARE JUST BOTH FICTIONKIN)
we were just texting now were posting about eachother on tumblr lmao
hi:D @reallysleepyish <3/p
i don’t want a ROMANTIC PARTNER. i want a DEAR FRIEND i can use as a HUMAN WEIGHTED BLANKET
How to ask someone to be your QPP
I’ve gotten a couple of communications about this, so I thought I’d try answering it directly here.
Much like how to ask someone to be in a romantic relationship, asking someone to be in a qpr (queerplatonic relationship) can be very personal and individualized.
A good place to start is by bringing up the concept of a qpr and discussing it with the person. They might know exactly what it is, or they might not know anything about it, or they might’ve heard of it but not know what it means to you (and honestly, what it means to you is going to be the most important).
When you’re talking about it, you can kind of gauge their reaction and see how they handle it. If they’re dismissive or uninterested, then you know it might not be safe or helpful to try to ask them to be in a qpr with you. If they’re respectful and want to know more, then it’s a great gateway to further discussion.
You might talk about popular depictions of qpr’s, or what you, personally, would want in a qpr, or the challenges and joys of being in multiple qpr’s or in a qpr and a romantic relationship, etc.
I’d recommend giving that some time to sit and kind of… settle in.
Then, if it has gone well so far, you can start a separate conversation about asking that person if they’d like to try building a qpr with you.
I think the phrasing here can be really important. Since some people define qpr’s as almost like romance-less and sex-less marriages, it could be considered a pretty serious thing to ask someone to be your qpr, almost like a platonic proposal. They might not be ready for that.
You could consider framing it more like “deepening the friendship” or even “try building a qpr” (as I phrased it above), which focuses more on the process and less on the final result.
This is a great time to strive for excellent communication, and talk about things like whether you’re on the same page about multiple qpr’s, or what you think/feel about how to handle if one or both you has romantic relationships, too. At some point, you’ll want to talk through your respective thoughts on things like the role of physical affection in your relationship, including whatever boundaries you have (or want to have). These kinds of conversations aren’t always easy, but they’re really important for healthy relationships of all kinds.
Followers, if you’ve asked someone to be your qpp, how did you do it? What are some helpful ways to approach this?
Just some ships that I headcanon as Queerplatonic
Steven x Connie (Steven Universe)
Peridot x Lapis (Steven Universe)
Ivy x Sprig x Maddie (Amphibia)
Polly x Pearl (Amphibia)
Frisk x Chara (Undertale)
Kris x Berdly (Deltarune)
Angel Dust x Alastor (Hazbin Hotel)
Zill x Kayla x Jack x Jill x Spam x Vanexa (Zoophobia)
Judy Hopps x Nick Wilde (Zootopia)
Yona x Sandbar (My little Pony)
Viney x Emira x Katya (The Owl House)
Sonic x Shadow x Silver (Sonic)
Din x Lina (Wish Dragon)
Gwen Stacy x Miles Morales (Spider-Man Into The Spider Verse)
K.O. x Dendy (Ok K.O! Let’s Be Heros!)
Lukas x Jesse x Petra (Minecraft Story Mode)
Zim x Dib (Invader Zim)
Tak x Gaz (Invader Zim)
Jessie x James (Pokémon)
